Problems with dating in nightclubs
— As a dating coach for single women over 40, one of the first questions I ask a client is, “What’s your biggest problem in dating? I recently asked a group of about 300 single, divorced, and widowed women over 40 what their biggest problems were in dating. But when a man rushes sex, women often feel objectified.
” I want to know what they’ve tried and what their struggles are. I wanted to see how many struggled with the same issues. They want to be appreciated for more than their bodies.
Had you not had the date, you’d been renegaded as a N-th wheel, as there was simply no opportunity for pickup.
If you view nightlife as an extension of culture, then what you get is a society that makes most of its social connections via other means: school, work, friends, etc.
Everyone was in big groups completely separated from one another.
Fortunately each one of us had dates, so it turned out to be an excellent night.
It’s great for getting warmed up for the night ahead.
Everyone was in medium to large sized groups mingling among themselves.
Their answers help me tailor a program that helps them attract their ideal match.
Are they unknowingly putting up guards that turn men off?
In terms of attraction, when you connect deeply at this level, attraction can grow. Ladies, you can’t do anything about the men who want a midlife-crisis-Barbie-Doll.
So stop looking for super hot chemistry and butterflies when you first meet. Ignore those men, and seek out the guys who want a relationship with someone they can relate to. Truly.◊♦◊Guys, if you’re comparing all the women you date to your ex, or you’re still blaming her for your problems, please get therapy and work this stuff out.