Dating relationship building questions
To engage in soul gazing, face each other in a seated position with your knees close to touching and hold eye contact for 3-5 minutes. Yes, it may feel slightly awkward for the first 1-2 minutes if you’ve never tried this before.And yes, you should avoid talking during the exercise.Think about it, talk to your partner about it, and then incorporate it into your lives as a non-negotiable connection habit. This exercise isn’t limited to seven breaths (you can keep going for several minutes if you’d like) but I find that seven breaths is the perfect minimum number of breaths for couples to really drop in to the moment and feel connected.If you and your partner are overachievers who like extra homework you can absolutely do this exercise for several minutes if you feel so inclined.Over the past few years I’ve compiled quite the collection of connection exercises that have helped couples from all walks of life increase their intimacy and sense of connectedness.The couples that tend to flock towards coaching with me are not people who are on the brink of divorce but people who are already in a fairly good place and want to level up their intimate connection.For this exercise, schedule a non-negotiable 30-minute connection block where you and your partner remove all distractions from your environment (phones, computers, children, etc.) and have a conversation like the intentional grownups you both are.You can start with questions like “How do you feel about us today?
The receiver doesn’t offer any advice or verbal feedback in any way.A lot of communication errors can occur through the course of a week (unfinished arguments, unmet expectations, unheard desires).Think of the weekly CEO meeting as a way to take out all of your unfinished business and hold it up to the light.You can either take turns counting out your five (1, 2, 3, 4, 5 – 1, 2, 3, 4, 5), or you can take alternating turns each round (1, 1, 2, 2, 3, 3, 4, 4, 5, 5)The versatility and playfulness of this exercise make it a total winner in my books. The exercise and the numerous lists that you sound off are only limited by your imagination.(Want more examples of themes? 5 things your partner has ever said that had a huge impact on you.)When I first suggest to some of my clients that they intentionally set aside time to connect as a couple, I am sometimes met with resistance.“We’re dating/we got married for a reason…shouldn’t we just feel connected automatically like we used to when we first started dating?