Dating men who are grieving
” Or when someone experienced a more recent loss, I would get “Oh, poor [so and so]. If you allow yourself to believe there is an expiration date for grief, you will start to think you aren’t doing well if you still miss your loved one 5, 10, 20, 40 years after the loss. An emotional handicap you get up, and live with everyday.
It doesn’t mean you can’t lead a happy life, but it is a choice, and takes work.
I remember being 15, five years after my mother died and three years after my father died.The reality is they won’t be over it, nor should they be.If someone spent years loving another person, the pain of that person’s death simply will not be removed due to a date on the calendar.No two people grieve in the same way, or at the same pace.Based on social cues and family traditions, men and women may find an extra challenge in understanding the grief experienced and expressed by the other gender.