Dating a guy 20 years older than you
I can’t see myself with somebody in their 20s at the moment.
I’m finishing college and have a well-paying job lined up.
I don’t want to stop just please those around me, so that they can welcome me to their gatherings, and not make me feel like an outcast. You’re strong enough to know what you want, you don’t care what other people think as much and at that point your social circle will include a wide variety of ages.
Somewhere in your 30s common interests prevail over common ages, particularly with so many people having children later.
I actually do stuff – I’m active in my field, I don’t party, and screwing around doesn’t appeal to me. The age difference is more pronounced in your 20s than in your 40s.
I know I can have many more chances to meet somebody, but sometimes I doubt that I’ll meet somebody that I have this many things in common with again. Most 40-somethings will tell you that the age difference is much less an issue in your forties.
I thought that I was an old soul because I had a lot of bizarre life experiences at a young age that enabled me to grow early and I had to put myself through college. The main thing I would say now as a 40 year old is that I was incorrect.
I was supporting myself so I had this sense of being forty when I was twenty. I was neither old enough to be making those decisions, wise enough or as mature as I thought.” I know women who married older men and are happy but we are generally talking in the 10-year range and with men who seem a bit more settled than your 39 year old.
We did break up after 6 months because he felt bad about the age difference and was hesitant to meet my family.Do your homework and get to know your new crush well before you let yourself truly fall in love.You’d never guess, but caution can, in fact, lead to powerful lasting love.I felt there was no future then but after 4 months he came back with the confidence he was missing to work it out.I told my family, but they’re not fond of the age difference (my older brothers think it’s “disgusting”).