Can a non drinker dating a drinker
During the course of the relationship I suffered a lot of emotional abuse from him, and it could have been the alcohol talking, but it doesn't change the damage that was done to me as a result.Sometimes he would abandon me places for hours on end and he made me cry every night.If he cant do it, or refuses to, then there's your answer. If you're ready to cut it off with this guy (and I dont think anyone would blame you) I think you should tell him why.If he does, reinforce the behavior by saying how much fun you had being clear headed with him. "You seem like a great guy in all other respects, but to be completely honest, the amount you drink worries me, and I think you need to get help for that before you can be in a successful relationship with me or anyone" Like everyone else said, Im positive that this guy knows he has a dependency on alcohol...my personal rule of thumb is, i'll have two drinks on a dinner date, before the meal, and just water thereafter (and generally a coke or something with caffeine before we leave to make sure i'm not the least bit drowsy or anything). This guy has it bad, so you're probably not going to penetrate his thick skull by "calling him out on it".You can certainly try and I wish you well but more often than not a person who romances alcohol will defend his "friend" rather than wake the hell up. It definitely seems he's an alcoholic, at the VERY least a problem drinker.
If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. You have some legitimate concerns about this and you need to talk to him and see what he has to say.
I know I can just not see him, but doesn't he deserve to know what the problem is (he's a heavy drinker/probably alcoholic?
) I mean if I were a heavy drinker/probable alcoholic, I would want to know so I can smell the coffee and get help.
Never again will I date someone who drinks heavily.
In the end, I'm glad I said something to him, even though he didn't change, at least he knew it was a problem. Better to leave support and treatment to professionals, IMO.